Let’s be honest: Nobody likes to make mistakes and waste their time, energy and money. But mistakes can also be a teacher from our point of view; It can also create anxiety to move forward.
At this point, the pragmatist philosopher John Dewey has a thought:
“The person with a truly inquiring mind learns as much from his failures as from his successes.”
Learning from your mistakes does not happen automatically. You need to reflect on your mistakes and analyze your mistakes.
Writer Darius Foroux recounted the lessons he learned from the mistakes he made in his twenties. Inspired by his way of thinking and the way he analyzes his mistakes, we too can reflect on our own mistakes:
1) Don’t think you know everything. If you want to achieve something, you have to be humble.
Don’t be one of those people who think they know everything. I have met such people all the time in my life. It was because I was not one of them.
Every time you refuse to listen to someone you think is smarter than you and think they know everything to look smart, you’ve made the biggest mistake.
It’s time to put the ego aside and learn that life isn’t all about influencing people.
If you want to achieve something, you have to be humble.
If you haven’t been humble yet, I have news for you. Life will make you humble at some point.
2) Do not look for the cause of your own unhappiness in others.
Others took care of you when you were a child. Your parents, sibling, family members, foster family… This could be any person. Someone was always responsible for you.
But this is no longer valid. Now only you are responsible for yourself. So when you are unhappy, do not look for the source of it in others. That wouldn’t be fair to the people in your life.
Instead, accept your unhappiness and try to do something about it.
3) Don’t waste your time with negative people.
It is a great luck that the people around you do not strive for the same things as you. At some point in my twenties, I was surrounded by completely negative people. I was surrounded by people who dropped out in college, who just wanted more free time, and had no goals.
Many people live their lives timidly and do not want to compromise their comfort. Stay away from people whose only expectation from life is to spend more time in front of the TV.
4) Love is not what you think it is.
You do not decide how the other person will act. You cannot even claim such a thing. If you cannot accept people as they are and shape your expectations according to you, you are making a big mistake.
It is called conditional love when you want the other person to live by acting according to you. Strive for the opposite. It’s hard to let go of your expectations about love. But you have to. Otherwise, you will never be happy in your relationships.
5) Actually, you don’t have as much time as you think.
When you’re young, you think of yourself as in the middle of an endless sea of time. You can do anything you want. Isn’t it great?
You blinked and you’re celebrating your thirtieth birthday!
The matter is very simple. Ask yourself this question:
• How much of my time do I spend on things that will not bring me the happiness of inner satisfaction?
• Do I like my current job? How much time do I spend on my job?
• Do I love the people in my life? How much time do I spend on them?
The answers to these questions will give you an idea of how valuable your time is.
6) A friendly reminder: You’re probably not as great as you think.
There will always be someone who is smart, strong, cool, good-looking, better than you in certain subjects. Always.
So stop thinking you’re great at everything. What makes you think you’re awesome? This indicates that you are constantly comparing yourself to others. Just be yourself and don’t compare yourself to others.
7) There is no end to learning.
The moment you stop improving and learning, you are dead. I am not kidding. I stopped learning when I left university. Guess what happened? Two years later, my life turned into a mess.
Challenge yourself to learn something new every day. If you’re not getting better, you’re getting worse.
8) Achieving difficult things gives you more satisfaction.
Do you run away from difficult things? Don’t get used to it. Force yourself to improve, to save, to do sports, to help others.
Remember that accomplishing hard things will always return more in your life. Try to experience early the feeling of success in a subject that requires a lot of effort. It can be going to the gym when you don’t want to go to the gym at all, or it can be any good thing you do by pushing yourself.
Feel as much as possible the unrivaled sense of accomplishment and pride this situation brings.
Remember that the same goes for your career.
9) Don’t be afraid to be alone. Feel the peace of solitude.
The fact that you can never be alone is a danger sign. No matter how tight you are with your family or friends, sometimes you need solitude to grow.
So try to get somewhere on your own, learn to stand on your own feet.
When you are alone you have enough time to know who you are. If you always spend your time with others, you become the product of the people in your life. Sometimes you need to distance yourself from others.
10) Small decisions have big consequences.
It won’t hurt you if you skip working, training, and responsibilities today, right? Or buying a new phone doesn’t make you poor.
Even the smallest decision you make here can affect your life deeply. Life is the result of the small decisions you make. You are defined by what you do every day. This is actually good news. Because who you are today and what you do, you will be that person in the future.