We’ve all heard the word toxic . This word that came into our language from English. It is defined as “poisonous” according to the Cambridge dictionary. It is possible to define it as situations, actions, which disrupt the structure of substances, enter the cells, disrupt the ongoing balance, and turn the environment in which they are located into a chaotic state. The word toxic can be defined as the element that turns the environment into chaos, upsetting the balance in a bad way, with the simplest and most dominant description.
Toxic as Substance
These toxic structures in the body or substance can be found in solid, liquid and gaseous states. These toxic structures can enter cells in different ways, for example; It can enter the cell structure through the respiratory tract, mouth, that is, through saliva and some infectious ways, and poison the environment in which it is located. Toxic substances, i.e. toxic substances, may be present in some amount in each structure or may be subject to the poisoning process through chemical reactions during intake. While the poisonous substance in question sometimes loses its toxic effect in the body, sometimes it can lead to more dangerous results.
These substances are in chemical compounds and can be found in the cleaning industry, perfumes, medicines, gases in the air and exhaust fumes. As with any toxic substance, it may encounter a resistance in the body, so it can have very dangerous consequences for children under the age of five. Especially against the risk of exposure of children to such toxic substances, parents should be extremely careful about possible poisoning such as detergents, drugs, perfumes, heavy drugs.
It is not possible to intervene with some extremely toxic substances. The most commonly known extremely toxic substances are: CO (carbon monoxide), CN (cyanide), As (arsenic), CO2 (carbon dioxide). If extremely toxic substances are inhaled in the slightest degree or in contact with the skin, they can make itself felt in a very short time and cause fatal results.
Toxic in Daily Life
While it is easy to determine the toxic substance, the effects of this toxic substance that enters the organism, the state of the substance before it enters, the state of the substance and its consequences, it is relatively difficult to determine and focus on the balance in human relations and toxic communication. Toxicity among humans is complex, like most human situations.
Like this complex structure, it is possible to multiply sub-titles such as toxic communication, relationship, human, trust and love. However, the state of being toxic that falls on communication like a fire; most of the time, it brings relationships, communication and even love to the point of ending. Let’s take a look at the specifically undetected/undetected “toxic relationship”.
“Poisoning” in Human Relations
Toxic effects that deeply affect substances, organism, people, do not do to human relations? However, the most crucial point of this effect is that it is not immediately detected and not noticed. Most of the time, when it is too late, when the parties end their relationship, they can be convinced of the toxicity of the relationship when they look at what they experience.
The primary factor that paves the way for this unhealthy communication is distrust in relationships and the inability to demonstrate honest action/discourse. Every unsound step taken in the face of such situations that poison the relationship adds another link to the chains of this destructive effect.
In such toxic relationships, the parties feel themselves in an endless chaos, reducing their quality of life considerably. In this context, we can describe the toxic relationship as living on an endless thorn. Until this poison consumes the relationship.
In a toxic relationship, the parties are in a chronic discomfort and a constant unhappiness prevails. They have difficulty communicating the problem to the other party. They do not even give the other party the right to speak because they have construed the problem in their minds and brought it to a conclusion. Small unspoken matters escalate into an avalanche and explode at the most unexpected time. The parties are dragged into greater unhappiness with the size of the big fights.
Their unhappiness grows with each fight. The parties, who need to explain themselves as they are accused, are constantly trying to find and reveal their right side, but the toxic relationship does not allow this, every statement turns into a futile effort. In such toxic relationships, there is always a tide on the parties.
A good or bad mood becomes depressing. Even if the problems are discussed by the parties in the vicious circle, they do not think that they have made progress, and they always feel that they have returned to the same place. This situation brings with it the feeling of devaluation.
In toxic relationships, one wants to know where the person is placed in front of the other party, he seeks clarity, but in toxic relationships, a state of purgatory and manipulation prevails. Making excuses by manipulating situations that are not actually the case is another feature of a toxic relationship.
Derogatory Words, Defense, and Manipulation
Derogatory remarks pave the way for self-defense and manipulating the other side through joking sarcasm. At any moment, an action or discourse may come to make the other party feel bad. It doesn’t matter what the other party thinks or feels for the person who engages in such destructive behavior.
The only thing that matters is to realize what you have in mind according to your own will. You always feel responsible for the poisonous person who makes this kind of association, wondering if there will be problems and fights. Therefore, over time, an urge to get permission and approval develops against the party that shows the toxic relationship so that the problem does not arise.
The absence of unpleasantness becomes the main sustaining principle of the relationship. There is an obvious dominant side that makes itself felt in the relationship, it comes from the toxic person who puts out the toxic actions and discourses, and all the strings are in his hands. Under the power of this dominant shadow, the other side becomes quite tired.
Feeling under constant supervision and control has a very low self-esteem effect. The person whose self-confidence has fallen cannot trust himself enough to step into new relationships and new beginnings in life, this insecurity blunts hopes for the future along with fatigue.
The Stage of Thinking You Don’t Have a Life
The person eventually feels that he does not have a life of his own. The most important matters are the other party and the only thing that matters is his happiness again. Again, the most notable pain and unhappiness is his. The toxic relationship thus opens a single channel, the relationship turns into a one-way and controlled channel from the communication established by two people.
While in a relationship, he was isolated from all your surroundings and made the other party become dependent on him. The toxic one leaves no other way out and escape from the relationship. This is the favorite feature of the destructive person. He trusts his ego so much that he thinks himself the most indispensable.
He constantly compliments himself as soon as he is everywhere. There is an effort to be the best, to look the most beautiful in the environment. No one outside of himself matters. The other party, who is exposed to these, finds himself in an endless feeling of worthlessness in the face of this arrogance.
All these situations, which are in a toxic relationship, wrap the person up with negative energy and cause him to feel tired. Perhaps the most dire situation, which is the sum of all these events, is the loss of self-respect and despair of the future.
Toxic communication has done so much damage that he is unable to take another step. There is no problem for the party who reveals the toxic relationship, because he sees himself as right in every situation and under all circumstances, he proves the other side wrong and adds another plus to his own positive mood with the pride he will feel for this rightness.
Toxic relationships poison the communication by wrapping it so much and ultimately kill the relationship. For the party exposed to the toxic relationship, good days will come again after this damaged experience. But maybe the snow won’t fall on the mountain of the toxic man right away.
When the party coming out of the toxic relationship looks at their relationship from a distance, they will see all the deficiencies and injustices. This ending will lead to new beginnings together with the experiences gained.
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