No matter how prepared and in control you feel, sometimes things can go wrong. At this point, the mindset of focusing on how to deal with them instead of thinking about what can go wrong can be much more constructive for you.
You may not want to think about setbacks when everything is fine in your life. But the times when you feel good are very important to really improve your mental endurance.
When you are in a personal crisis, neither your body nor your mind has the energy and time to get stronger. You can of course come out stronger after these times, but the best opportunity for conscious growth comes when you feel comfortable.
At some point in our lives, we will all have to deal with death and grief. We will all face personal crises and feel down for some reason.
However, these obstacles never come in the right perception of time in our heads. As if we have control over external factors, we say, “Why now?” we ask the question many times.
An exercise you can try even while you’re reading.
We have to accept that we don’t have complete control at any point in our lives. That’s why you can train your subconscious mind to alleviate the pain that some events will cause.
Meditating on what could go wrong when everything is going well is a much deeper action than you consciously feel. In the book What It Takes To Be Free
, this exercise consists of the following steps:
1) Sit or lie down in a comfortable place
2) Close your eyes
3) Think about a person who is important to you, whose support you always want to feel and always trust him/her
4) Think of the good times you had with him/her
5) Try to remember and feel the joy of the good times you had with him/her.
6) Now, imagine you are alone in the room
7) Imagine being called by an unknown number
8) Turn on the phone
9) And imagine that you received the news of the death of the person you thought about at first
10) Feel that pain in your stomach and that intense heaviness above you
After the mood you have entered, you need to return to your daily life. After all, you don’t have to be stuck in this feeling. The important thing is to temporarily feel negative emotions and be more resistant to the shock state that may be introduced in similar events in the future.
You can also do this exercise for all your fears. Exercise will not only make you more resilient in the face of unpleasant events, but it will also make you more grateful for what you have in your life.
For example, you can do this meditation about getting fired from your job or being out of money. You may imagine that you have made a wrong investment and everything is turned upside down. This way, when you experience a similar situation, you can feel more ready to start over.
You don’t have to do this exercise every day. Some people may interpret such exercises as an essential element of every day when shared. Doing it only when you think it is helpful will also increase your post-exercise efficiency.
Anything you say “This will never happen to me” can happen to you.
You can also do the exercise in question about illness or injury. Yes, maybe it’s a rather depressing exercise. And I can’t say that you’ll feel very well afterwards. But I can say that it is empowering and adds a different perspective.
This exercise, which has a feeling of gratitude at its core, also aims to make you realize how good your life is in its current state and make you feel happier in the long run.