{"id":174021,"date":"2022-01-10T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-01-10T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/?p=174021"},"modified":"2022-11-02T11:28:15","modified_gmt":"2022-11-02T08:28:15","slug":"3-important-life-skills-no-one-has-taught-you-before","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/en\/3-important-life-skills-no-one-has-taught-you-before","title":{"rendered":"3 Important Life Skills No One Has Taught You Before"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"nImage coverImage\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/wp-content\/images\/post\/user-5\/m0urja.jpg\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText \">Now let&#8217;s imagine having one of these heart-to-heart conversations that we all ideally dream of having with our fathers. With all my fatherly wisdom, I will tell you about the three most important life skills that no one has told you.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nHR\">\n<hr>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">\n<h2>First Important Life Skill: stop taking things personally.<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"nImage\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/wp-content\/images\/post\/user-5\/ltvkfz.jpg\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">An unfortunate side effect of our consciousness living in our brain is that everything we experience in life involves us in some way. You get angry at someone in traffic. The news bulletin you saw last night worries you. Your company&#8217;s leap this year will earn you more money.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">As a result, we have a bias against assuming that everything that happens to us is really about us. This is something in human nature.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">Just because you&#8217;re experiencing something, just because one thing makes you feel a certain way, or just because you care about something doesn&#8217;t mean it&#8217;s about you.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">It is difficult to remember this when running through life. This is not just because we are embedded in our brains and our own bodies. It also makes us feel good for a short time. So we continue to do this without realizing it.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">So it feels good to think that everything that happens in your life is good for you, because it&#8217;s good, it makes you feel great. However, there is a price you pay for that. This price is that the opposite of this situation is also happening. So it makes you think that all the bad things in your life are also about yourself.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">When all is well, you feel like a gift from the gods to the earth. When things go wrong, you turn into a smug person who has been wronged and deserves better.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">It is this sense of entitlement that is constant. This creates a constant sense of injustice and turns you into an emotional vampire. You become an anti-social black hole that drains the energy and love of those around you.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">Okay, maybe a little dramatic. But you know what I mean.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">When people criticize or reject you, it probably has more to do with them. At least more than he has to do with you. Other people just don&#8217;t think too highly of you (after all, they&#8217;re too busy trying to believe it&#8217;s all about them).<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">Failing at something you do doesn&#8217;t mean you&#8217;ve failed as a person. It just means that you are a person who fails sometimes.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">Related Content: <a class=\"ceo-tooltip-top\" href=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/en\/do-you-want-to-make-new-decisions-and-fail-again-here-are-10-things-you-should-do\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" aria-label=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/yeni-kararlar-alip-yine-basarisiz-mi-olmak-istiyorsun-iste-yapman-gerekenler\">Do You Want to Make New Decisions and Fail Again? Here are 10 Things You Should Do<\/a><\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">When something tragic happens and you suffer a lot, remember that living is part of choosing to face difficulties, the tragedy of death is something that gives life meaning. Pain has no prejudices, it affects us all. To deserve or not to deserve is not part of the equation.<\/div>\n<p><amp-ad width=\"100vw\" height=\"320\" type=\"adsense\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-1787826683754973\" data-ad-slot=\"9068969645\" data-auto-format=\"rspv\" data-full-width=\"\"><\/p>\n<div overflow=\"\"><\/div>\n<p><\/amp-ad><\/p>\n<div class=\"line nHR\">\n<hr>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">\n<h2>Second Important Life Skill: How to be convinced and change your mind?<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"nImage\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/wp-content\/images\/post\/user-5\/md2fr2.jpg\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">Most people, when their beliefs are challenged, use their beliefs like a life jacket on a sinking ship.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">The problem is that one&#8217;s faith is often the sinking ship.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">Our beliefs not only give us ideas that we are true, they also form essential components of our identity. And questioning these beliefs basically means questioning who we are.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">That&#8217;s why we choose to plug our ears with our fingers, chanting &#8220;La la la la la la&#8221; over and over, hoping that the unfortunate evidence that we were wrong will magically disappear.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">Take someone who doesn&#8217;t believe in climate change, for example. Many of these people are not stupid. They have a good understanding of what science says. They also understand the arguments. The problem is that these people reject climate change not just because they think it&#8217;s real. At the same time, rejecting climate change also represents who they are as human beings. But this commitment to our beliefs doesn&#8217;t just apply to <a class=\"ceo-tooltip-top\" href=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/?s=bilim\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" aria-label=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/?s=bilim\">science<\/a> and politics. These beliefs also affect most people&#8217;s daily lives.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">You will be very wrong in life. Because your ability to be successful and learn in the long run is directly proportional to your ability to change what you believe in response to your ignorance and mistakes.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">Try this: Write down 20 things in your life today that you could potentially be wrong about. Not just material things.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">Our aim here is to question some of these deep assumptions about your identity. For example, I am not an attractive person; I am lazy; I don&#8217;t know how to talk to people; I will never be happy because I am stuck somewhere in life&#8230;<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">The more <a class=\"ceo-tooltip-top\" href=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/?s=duygusal\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" aria-label=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/?s=duygusal\">emotional<\/a> these assumptions are, the more important it is to write down and challenge that assumption. This may sound uncomfortable at first. You will have many assumptions that you do not want to question. But think about it this way: if you&#8217;ve never seen the other side before, if you never challenged them, how confident can you be in the limits of your own beliefs? What we want to develop is the ability to see the &#8220;other side&#8221;.<\/div>\n<p><amp-ad width=\"100vw\" height=\"320\" type=\"adsense\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-1787826683754973\" data-ad-slot=\"9068969645\" data-auto-format=\"rspv\" data-full-width=\"\"><\/p>\n<div overflow=\"\"><\/div>\n<p><\/amp-ad><\/p>\n<div class=\"line nHR\">\n<hr>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">\n<h2>Third Important Life Skill: How can you act without knowing the outcome?<\/h2>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"nImage\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/wp-content\/images\/post\/user-5\/tbfg5r.jpg\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">For most of your life, almost everything has a clear consequence attached to it. You write your term paper at school because that&#8217;s what your teacher told you to do. At home, you clean your room because your parents rewarded you for it. When you&#8217;re at work, you do what your boss wants because he pays you for it.<\/div>\n<p><script async=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js\"><\/script><br \/>\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\" style=\"display:block; text-align:center;\" data-ad-layout=\"in-article\" data-ad-format=\"fluid\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-1787826683754973\" data-ad-slot=\"8276300176\"><\/ins><br \/>\n<script>\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\n<\/script><\/p>\n<div class=\"line nText\">There is no uncertainty. It&#8217;s like you&#8217;re just pretending.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">But most of life\u2014that is, real life\u2014does not work with this logic. When you decide to change <a class=\"ceo-tooltip-top\" href=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/en\/category\/career\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" aria-label=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/kategori\/kariyer\">careers<\/a> , no one can tell you which career is right for you. No one is saying that when you decide to be with someone, that relationship will make you happy. When you decide to start a job or move to a new country, or have pancakes for breakfast instead of pancakes, you have no way of knowing if what you&#8217;re doing is right.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">And so we avoid it. We avoid making these decisions. We avoid acting unknowingly. And because we can&#8217;t act on what we don&#8217;t know, our lives remain incredibly repetitive and overconfident.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">I get a lot of emails from people asking how to find their life&#8217;s purpose. Or they want to know if they&#8217;re in the right relationship, if they&#8217;re making the right change. And I don&#8217;t answer these people because I have no idea. Because no one can decide what is right for your life.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">There&#8217;s a wonderful scene in The Dark Knight where the <a class=\"wpil_keyword_link\" href=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/en\/joker-actors-the-actors-who-have-played-the-joker-so-far\/\" title=\"Joker\" data-wpil-keyword-link=\"linked\">Joker<\/a> shares his life&#8217;s philosophy:<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\"><b>\u201cI just do things.\u201d<\/b><\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">(\u201cI am just doing something.\u201d)<\/div>\n<p><amp-ad width=\"100vw\" height=\"320\" type=\"adsense\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-1787826683754973\" data-ad-slot=\"9068969645\" data-auto-format=\"rspv\" data-full-width=\"\"><\/p>\n<div overflow=\"\"><\/div>\n<p><\/amp-ad><\/p>\n<div class=\"line nText\"> For all of the Joker&#8217;s flaws (terrorist, murderer, armed robber, assassin &#8211; but we&#8217;ll ignore those for now), it does make sense here.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">The truth is: sometimes we look for loads of reasons to achieve difficult things. But trying to achieve that thing for reasons is wrong. Don&#8217;t look for a reason, do it because you can! Do it because they exist. As George Mallory was asked when asked why he wanted to climb Everest, he said: &#8220;because it&#8217;s there.&#8221;<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">Add some chaos to your life. A certain amount of chaos is healthy. It evokes growth, change, passion and excitement.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">This chaos will train you to better make uncertain life decisions. He&#8217;ll train you to start something without knowing where the hell you&#8217;re going.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">Related Content: <a class=\"ceo-tooltip-top\" href=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/cem-seymen-ted-konusmasi\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" aria-label=\"https:\/\/ceotudent.com\/cem-seymen-ted-konusmasi\">Find the Chaos Within \u2013 Cem Seymen<\/a>[TED] <\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">While this will lead to thousands of small mistakes, it will likely result in the biggest success of your life.<\/div>\n<p><amp-ad width=\"100vw\" height=\"320\" type=\"adsense\" data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-1787826683754973\" data-ad-slot=\"9068969645\" data-auto-format=\"rspv\" data-full-width=\"\"><\/p>\n<div overflow=\"\"><\/div>\n<p><\/amp-ad><\/p>\n<div class=\"line nText\">You can start small. Email someone. Buy an online training. Call a friend or family member and tell them, &#8220;Show me something new that you think is surprising.&#8221;<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">But of course there is a subtle pitfall here.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">After reading this article, many of you will say: I learned that despite the uncertainty, in order to make these big decisions in my life, I have to start doing something spontaneously. So let&#8217;s see, what can I do with myself today and how can I plan these things to do?<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\"><b>You lost.<\/b><\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">You lost before you started, you&#8217;ve already failed.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">But that&#8217;s not the point anyway&#8230;<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">There is no progress in this business. There is no such thing as progress. Stop doing everything you do to reach the goal.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">Or in other words: be good at wasting time in unexpected ways.<\/div>\n<div class=\"line nText\">\n<i><a class=\"ceo-tooltip-top\" href=\"https:\/\/markmanson.net\/life-skills\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\" aria-label=\"https:\/\/markmanson.net\/life-skills\">Source.<\/a><\/i>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Now let&#8217;s imagine having one of these heart-to-heart conversations that we all ideally dream of having with our fathers. With all my fatherly wisdom, I will tell you about the three most important life skills that no one has told you. First Important Life Skill: stop taking things personally. 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