How to Stay in the Moment? Why Is It So Hard To Stay In The Moment We Live In?

Emre Ülkem

Emre Ülkem

Boğaziçi Uni.

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The answer to the question “How to stay in the moment?” is critical because it is very difficult to achieve. From time to time, we all complain that we couldn’t stay in the moment we were living in. Whatever we do, we feel like we can’t get into that moment. Our perceptions of our surroundings change, we want to go somewhere else as soon as possible, and maybe we even feel unhappy. This frustrating situation is one problem that negatively affects our daily lives.
For example, we are on a beautiful beach on a sunny day, but we are not entirely there, as if something in our brain is taking us to the past or the future. Or we are on the birthday of a person we love very much, but it is as if our brain is not there while only our body is there. At such times, an absurd situation arises because our behavior also loses its sincerity.
So what are the things that make it difficult for us not to fully experience those beautiful moments we live in? Unfortunately, the answer to this question cannot be said for sure, but it can be said that experiencing anxiety problems is one of the most significant factors that make it difficult for us to stay in the present.
The moment we live contains an enormous number of possibilities that we are always aware of in the background of our memory. Some of these are negative possibilities such as earthquake, rejection, failure. The sum of such probabilities can also cause non-specific, general anxiety. ‘Simple fear of the unknown about what is to come’ is the most concise explanation for this anxiety.
Another of the main reasons why we disconnect from the moment we live in is to feel that something is wrong/gone even though everything is fine. Let’s say you went to a cafe to meet your friend and started chatting.
Then all of a sudden, in your mind, “Why am I here? Why are we talking about this now? How do I look in front of him/her right now? How would he/she think if I asked permission to get up?” began asking, and you had the feeling that something was wrong. Unfortunately, we gradually lose our concentration in this way, and it becomes inevitable to disconnect from the moment we live.

 

 

How to stay in the moment? In order to minimize this situation, we must first accept that what we are experiencing is normal and regularly do exercises to increase our awareness. In particular, mindfulness (conscious awareness) meditations will help us to become aware of the moment we live in.
If you know of effective solutions to overcome this situation, you can share it with us in the comments.

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